You say you have so many things to do. Don’t try to do too many things at once. That way you will never be free of constant worrying. The mind likes to create worries and things to do.
If things are difficult in any situation take three deep breaths and just do Mantra silently to yourself. Anything else can wait.
Have no expectation of the other person even if he/she is your husband or wife. Forget about roles. Forget about the normal man. You have no way of knowing what this so called ‘normal man’ is experiencing. Have no expectation of this other person. If she cooks for you be grateful.. If she cleans be grateful. At the same time refuse to harbour resentment of any kind towards this person. If they do something you don’t like simply walk away. Refuse to react to anger. This is a tall order but one which you are truly capable of filling.
If the body is busy the mind has less time to wander.