Simply STRIVE TOWARDS THE ONE. Live your life as normally as possible. Do not "give up" your attachments in that way. Do not place your energy there, your focus. Then this only builds up the obsession further. Simply place all at the feet of the Master. Make every action, every thought and certainly every word you speak an offering to the Divine. Then truly it is "Thy will be done and not mine". Then you serve God in various ways, in every interaction, even in sleep you serve him.
Do not worry how this plan will unfold. You are being lifted from what could have been extreme suffering. Surrender to His will. When that attitude is there, everything comes automatically and you are filled.
If I am going to take on a task, I am going to be responsible for it. I may delegate part of my responsibility to others but ultimately I am the one responsible for it. Then beyond being responsible for a work, the other thing is becoming responsible for my own thoughts, words and actions, being able to admit when I am wrong. Also, perhaps letting someone other than myself to say when I am right. That is, it is better to stay silent rather than point finger in blame thereby stating that “I” am the correct one. All of this is subtle at one stage later on, but at that latter stage it becomes more deadly. It is as the child who does not take responsibility for his actions. He is a child. He is excused for it. No doubt he has to learn this lesson but when that same child becomes an adult, the responsibility becomes more serious and if he is arrogant he is less likely to be excused. So it is like that.
Stop taking everything for granted. Stop expecting that everyone serve you. Why should anyone serve you? What have you done in your life at present to desire that all others serve you? This attitude must be dug out of you.