Have No Expectation of the Other Person

      You say you have so many things to do. Don’t try to do too many things at once. That way you will never be free of constant worrying. The mind likes to create worries and things to do.

       If things are difficult in any situation take three deep breaths and just do Mantra silently to yourself. Anything else can wait.

        Have no expectation of the other person even if he/she is your husband or wife. Forget about roles. Forget about the normal man. You have no way of knowing what this so called ‘normal man’ is experiencing. Have no expectation of this other person. If she cooks for you be grateful.. If she cleans be grateful. At the same time refuse to harbour resentment of any kind towards this person. If they do something you don’t like simply walk away. Refuse to react to anger. This is a tall order but one which you are truly capable of filling.

       If the body is busy the mind has less time to wander.

      You have to be more strict with diet. Then if you are in the habit of taking any drug or stimulant best leave it as soon as possible. Make the effort at least. Time is near when all these will spoil you. Tapa is very important for you now.

      There is so much that has to be done. Don’t allow yourself to be pulled in other directions. Put all focus on your work. Normal desires are there. You should not feel badly that you have these desires. We know you are alone and that this is difficult. Let the desires come and go as thoughts during a meditation. DO NOT HOLD ON TO EACH LONGING. You focus on being unfulfilled. Never mind fulfilled or unfulfilled. Fulfill others. This Love will come. Do not worry.

      Nothing is so severe it cannot be remedied at this time. Make great efforts on a daily basis. Do not worry about succeeding or failing. Just do the effort.

     You bring these healing energies to others with very little knowledge of it. This is the beauty of it, how GRACE operates. NO intellectualization. Healing goes on whether you know it or not.